Monday, September 13, 2010

Weight Wars

I've been thinking a lot about the on going battle between women and their views on the "normal" weight. Its always been a touchy subject, no matter who you are, you've probably felt insecure at one point about the number on your scale. Some people seem to think that everyone has self-induced there own weight by either eating or starving, but obviously that's not true. It seems fitting to say, we always want what we can't have.


If it was back then, I'd probably be proud of my natural weight, but instead I find myself feeling guilty or judged. I've always been able to avoid anything to do with weight when i was younger, everyone was treated right, big or small. Its wasn't until I became older that I experienced a fair amount of "are you anorexic?" or "does anyone feed you?", the amount of teasing was endless. At first I was always able to laugh and inform them i probably eat more then guys do, but after endless teasing it really adds up. It seems to me people think its more acceptable to crack jokes about underweight people because they think people like being that way i suppose. I've even had a doctor drill me about my weight (i know its their job) but it seriously almost had me in tears, its incredibly hurtful.


Another thing that gets me is when people ask me how i stay so skinny, after reading this you can guess, that I have no control over it. Yet, people seem disappointed, as if they wanted me to share a secret diet with them. This is my secret, i eat whatever i want, i love food, and I'm probably as healthy as a 40 year old over weight male. Not even kidding. Some people would be jealous or say I'm lucky to look the way i do, but they don't know the teasing or the fact i hated showing my legs or arms cause they're so darn long and lanky. To be completely honest though, as I grow older, i am starting to lose that metabolism, and i am finally starting to gain something, which makes me happy. Also as I get older i find I'm less and less embarrassed of my weight, I've decided that this is me, and no one can tell me that there's anything wrong with that.


In the end every size is beautiful, everyone has a preference and there is no normal. We just have to learn that no matter how hard we try to avoid it, there will always be someone telling people whats "right", we just have to learn how to be happy with our own perfect weight.

11 comments:

  1. awe, such a sweet post! i agree with your views, great post.

    P.S i was wondering if you got my email about the button?

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  2. i agree with this post. im trying to lose weight and struggling but really, more than a tiny body or bigger body or whatever, i just want to be happy in my body!

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  3. great post, i really do agree with this. people who are comfortable in their own skin make me see them and think, they look so good! no matter what size or shape they are. i think it's ok to take a little time and effort to get to that stage, it's normal and it's not easy to feel completely comfortable with yourself. i'm glad to hear you're feeling positive :) thanks for bringing this up xo

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  4. as someone who has always been on the other side of the body mass equation, I hear you, and agree with everything you say. If I have one more person say, well, maybe you shouldn't eat so much, I'll smack them.

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  5. I really agree with you. Great post!!!

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  6. I'm glad i'm getting good feedback!! I was afraid of posting this since it is such a sensitive subject. :) Its always been something I've dealt with and i really wanted everyone to know that there not alone.

    Thank you all. <3

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  7. One of my girlfriends since high school was called twig, twiggy...it made her mad...we never liked the fact that everyone said things to her...she's just naturally thin! i on the other hand struggled with it in high school {eating disorders} not because i was fat but because i had no control over my life and that i did. i regret it now because if i hadn't been bulimic & anorexic, i would not have the problems i do today!

    everyone is beautiful and i love this post:) your amazing!

    xoxo

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  8. I like this post a lot. I was NZ size 10 until I was about 18 (USA size 8 according to Google), and since then it's fluctuated between NZ size 8-14 (USA 6-12). Unless I have a massive lifestyle overhaul, I guess it'll settle around size 12, which is apparently the average size for NZ females. I used to worry A LOT when I was younger about putting on weight. My teenage self would be horrified by my present day stomach and boobs! I'm not too bothered anymore by what size I am (I just wish it would settle so I'd stop growing in and out of clothes and bras!) But as you say about health; that's my problem. I have a lot of friends who are technically overweight (or even obese) but they could sure as hell out run me in a race. Even when I was my skinniest I was pretty unfit (illness related mostly). Putting the health thing aside, it's absurd the amount of social pressure we have to lose the obesity epidemic (here, anyway) yet the super thin, who aren't contributing to that problem and are (usually) DOING something to stay that way, get comments and sideways looks just the same. Oh, also (sorry this is turning into a blog post within a comment!) it makes me mad when people who are a similar size to me suddenly start eating differently and exercising more- and then have people say "but you don't need to lose weight" as though they SHOULD sit down and do nothing and be happy with what they have. Just because there's people bigger than you it's like you're not allowed to better yourself. Many tangents here, apologies! Thank you also for the sunshine award!! <3 <3

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  9. oh i know, i remember in high school when we had to run, sometime i was one of the slowest ones there. :/ lol I wish i was healthy, i'm going to actually try my best again since its a bad idea to eat processed, fried foods, and sweets all week, haha. :(

    yeah, i don't understand how weird some people are about other peoples weight. I guess its all a insecurity thing with them, like a contest... which is messed up. I defiantly know that almost everywhere you go in North America, they have things promoting weight loss... and then where ever you see someone promoting weight loss there's a huge mass of people fighting it, and then there's those random people telling the small people to eat more. *sigh* It really is a battle.

    And i love long comments, it makes the post more interesting. :D

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  10. -hugs- I hate people judging weight x

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